Managing a large family series part 3

This is part 3 of our series –managing a large family.

Monday is laundry day

We have chosen to focus this day on doing MOST of our laundry.  Mind you with a family of 12, there is no possible way to do it all in one day.  I actually try and and get it all done today and then on Friday, which you will see later on, I do a few loads as well.

After having the weekend, our house gets pretty messed up.  Laundry piles up from the multiple changes of clothing and the housework backs up as we do not do as much upkeep as we do during the week. Our weekends are spent being together, doing things, not worrying about a clean home.

How I begin my morning on Monday, is I wake up, before the children do and I gather up all of the laundry.  We keep a basket in the main bathroom and then my husband and I have our laundry in our bathroom.  I gather up both of those piles and bring them to the laundry room.

I also have scheduled on washing the family bedding once a month.  Yes, I know I grew up washing it every week, but in our home it is not a reality to wash it every week.  I have scheduled different people’s bedding for different weeks so that I am not overwhelmed washing  multiple loads of bedding on one day.

This is how it is scheduled:

  • Week 1 Dad and Mom
  • Week 2  Evan and Jentzen
  • Week 3  Jadyn, Brooklyn, Autumn, and Madelyn
  • Week 4 Lauren and Collin

I chose this way of scheduling for these reasons:

  • My husband and I get fresh bedding the beginning of the month.
  • Evan is learning to do his own laundry and I have him grab little brother Jentzen’s bedding as well.
  • The 4 girls all share a room–I have the 2 older girls grab the 2 younger girls bedding to wash.
  • The last week are for the two oldest and they do their own laundry as well.

I begin by separating our laundry into 4 laundry hampers:

  1. lights
  2. towels
  3. darks
  4. my husbands dark working clothes

 

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I then start by doing a towel load as I know that will run for a bit of time.  If it is warm weather outside, I always hang our towels and bedding outdoors, to save on electricity.

We use our all natural homemade laundry soap.  I have been using that for for years.

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I try and do a load of diapers the night before as I know they take awhile.  If you want to see my cloth diapering routine, click here.  I love to hang my diapers outdoors on a drying rack to help naturally get out stains and smells, but since it is winter time now they go into the dryer.

 

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My next job for the day would be to deep clean our bathroom.  I use our homemade all natural cleaner as well as homemade scouring powder to scrub the tub.  I do this to our main bathroom and to our master bathroom.  By this time the children are usually waking up.

 

Then we begin our day with the following staying constant:

  1. chore packs
  2. personal grooming chart
  3. school
  4. lunch
  5. naptime
  6. snacktime

Throughout this whole day, I am constantly listening for the washer and dryer to be completed and keep switching the loads.  For my laundry routine, click here.

After snack time we usually all come together whoever is available and complete the “extra chores” I have pre written out and clipped to our clipboards.  I keep a copy of these lists in plastic sleeves and then we clip them to the clipboard and rotate them around depending upon the day.

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At the top I have listed my focus for the day, so that I know what it is I have to do.

I then have listed “Group effort” what that means is that whoever is available to help, does.  We then have children pick and grab a chore to do.  Sometimes some work together, sometimes it is Mom managing a bunch of preschoolers to do it, regardless it takes about 1/2 hour of our day and then we can be ready for Dad.  We also do a run through of the house and pick up floors, sweep if necessary, and vacuum.  That way Dad walks into a somewhat clean atmosphere.

I have highlighted on my list that is hung what the boys are responsible for doing.  They are usually taught to do the outside things as I want them to grow up to be men.  I have them clean the van and take care of all of the yard work.  But the days that it is raining or freezing cold outside, they will willingly help indoors with our “group effort list.”

 

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We have so many towels and washcloths all of the time.  I was finding that we went through so many towels each week it was overwhelming.  My wonderful neighbor, Kathy made each of my children their own towel embroidered with their name.

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I then had my husband use a piece of his rough sawn lumber to make a simple hanger, I then hang each child’s towels on the hook to dry.  I gather them up, today to wash and then rehang them on their hooks.  This will come in handy when it is warm and we are using the pool as well.
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I have a large drawer in the kitchen and we constantly are using them to wash faces, clean up messes, and dry hands.  We used to run out about every 2 days.  I make sure to purchase more sets so that I only have to do this 2 times per week.

 

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Another area that takes much time is putting away the laundry.  I recently stated how life gets easier, and that included how my daughter enjoys organizing the drawers for me.  But before she started doing that, I would put the items into the lower half’s  drawers and then I would have the 6 and 8 year old start by hanging up some of their dresses.  For the most part it was extra help.  I do remember a time that I had no helpers and this task took a long time.  But those days are gone.

I then quickly go into our bedroom closet and put away our clothing.  We are pretty easy about clothing, I quickly fold my skirts, put our underclothing into the drawers and then hang up our shirts.

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My husbands jeans, which he wears everyday to work I hang on this homemade pant hanger that we made.  Makes it much easier, he did not like having to fumble through a drawer full of jeans to find which pair he wanted to wear.

That is how my Laundry day goes.  I have trained and taught the four older ones how to do their own laundry and that is working out wonderfully.  Laundry used to be this enormous task that was going around the clock.  I realized that I needed to teach my children responsibility in doing their own laundry and they do it willingly.  2013-11-11_00001

This help cut down on the amount of towels and extra laundry that I was washing each week.  They seem to enjoy it as well, because there are never any little children’s socks mixed up in their baskets:)2013-11-11_00002

At the end of my day this is how our hampers look:)


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We then have dinner with Dad, clean up, and spend time together as a family.  We either goto the park, go play in the pool, or help Dad out in the garage–for our family business.  

I made sure to plan out on Mondays to make a casserole type dish for this day.  This day is usually the busiest and having something that I can just throw together quickly is a great meal planned for this day.

We then come together around 8 and  pop some air popped popcorn.  We will watch a movie together or spend time talking and sharing things.  Then it is bedtime around 9 pm.  It is lights out for the little ones, the older ones will either read or watch a movie to fall asleep to.  I then do my blog time when everyone is in bed.

That is our Monday.  This day used to be the busiest and craziest, our home would be a mess from the weekend and I would spend all day doing everything, no more.  I use my schedule and keep to it.  It allows me time to get everything done and free time for myself later on.

Up next….Tuesdays plan…..

 

 

 

 

 

Will life ever get easier? Hope for the weary mom

Will life ever get easier???

Those were words that sat at the back of my mind over the last 6 years.  For those that do not know our story let me share a bit.  My husband and I had 4 children within the first 6 years of marriage.  The Lord was gracious and as I had gotten saved, during my 4th pregnancy, he did not allow us any children for 5 years.  (we did suffer a miscarriage and our baby, Jordan is in heaven waiting to greet us).  That was a good time to grow and learn about Him.  Then the Lord said, “Okay you have been praying about children let me give them to you”…and give them to us He did:).  We had 6 more babies over the course of 7 years.

My life was a daily cycle of wake up, change diapers, nurse babies, feed toddlers, clean up, change diapers, nurse babies, feed toddlers, clean up, etc, etc.  There was NO time for anything extra.  Zero mommy time.  It was a time for me to have my babies.  It was an enjoyable time.  I loved being pregnant, loved having babies, loved everything about it, but I was tired.  My husband was working a lot at this time and he was not able to relieve me of my duties very often.  It was good for me, good to learn how to handle all of these little ones.  But it was hard.  Only by the grace of God did I get through it.

God is able to do so much more than we can ask or think.  I remember on more than one occasion wondering if it would ever get any better???

Do you know what?? It does.  It does get better.  A whole lot better.  We push through the storms of life and when we finally reach the other side, we made it.  Sometimes we are a little wet or weather beaten, but we get there.  All the sacrifice and time spent pouring into my children is paying off.

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I remember the days of shopping for our large family and having to come home and put everything away, it was overwhelming. Do you know that I now have a teenager who loves to organize my pantry?  She takes over as soon as we bring the groceries home.  It is her domain and I am thankful to relinquish that duty to her.

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Putting laundry away is a HUGE chore in our household.

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I for the most part have never folded a sock, pair of underwear, or pair of leggings.  Who has time to do that when you have 5 baskets of clothing to put away? The above picture is how I just throw all the items into the drawer.

 

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But  I am happy to say that my 8 year old, loves to fold and organize the laundry every night while she is watching a video before bedtime.  What a blessing it is.

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Here are my drawers now:)  She loves to even roll the underwear:)

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Meal time in our home used to be serve the children and by the time  you were done serving, getting drinks, and feeding some children seconds, most were done.  You had to wipe faces, hands, start wiping up their messes,  there was no time to sit down and eat together.  It was a rush, rush situation.  It was very loud, and something we got through quickly.  But again I am happy to announce that just recently our meal time has become much more quieter, calmer, and easier going.  The baby  who is now 1, will sit and keep himself occupied while others are eating.  The 2 and 3 year old, are learning to feed themselves without much spilling.  Our 5,6, and 8 year old are quite the conversation starters in our home.  It is nice to be able to sit and have conversations around the table.  We use our conversation table starters to begin our dinner meals.
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I now can wash diapers every 3 days instead of every day.  I only have the baby to change during the day.  There was a time I had 3 babies in diapers.  Talk about overwhelming.

Laundry in our home can be overwhelming in our home of 12 people!  I am happy to say that I have trained my oldest 4 to do their own laundry.  I now just take care of my husbands and mine and the 6 little ones.  Talk about a WAY easier job.  (some of you might be laughing, well from 12 people to 8 people’s laundry is still less.)

The internet was something foreign to me up until about August of this year.  Now I am able to do my blog while everyone sleeps for the night.  And yes, my children FINALLY for the most part sleep through the night.  There was a time I had a infant nursing, a 1 year old up 2-3 times per night and a 2 year old waking me up.  I think I had just given up on a full nights sleep.  I took what I could get during that time.

I even remember in the summer time, not even going outside by myself because I had so many little ones and they would all scatter to different parts of the yard and it was hard to keep them together.  We pretty much stayed indoors until Dad came home and took us to the beach.  They would at least all stay by the edge of the water.  But nowadays I can even send the little ones outside and I can watch from a large picture window.  They know where they can play at and they stay in that area.  Amazing how much just a little time will do for you.

I share all of this to let you know, Yes, you will return to normal again, you will sleep more than you currently do, and you will have time for yourself, eventually.  Keep staying the course, enjoy those moments with your babies as they will go by so quickly, and you won’t ever get them back.

 

 

 

 

 

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